Author: Jeremy Rowland
Cultivating a healthy working relationship with your wife during a church plant
One of the greatest blessings of church planting is for a church planter to be able to serve together with his wife. Although this should be very rewarding, because of the demands of church planting, this relationship can be filled with frustration and lead to an overall strain on the marriage. The mistake that most church planters make is to expect their wife to take on the role of the “Assistant Pastor” instead of “assisting” her husband, the pastor. There are several points to realize that will help avoid costly, and sometimes, disastrous mistakes.
1. Realize the Proper View of the Calling
II. Realize the Value of Your Wife
III. Realize She is to Assist but not be the Assistant
Church planters often feel pressure to have several ministries prematurely without the proper leadership and, because she wants to help her husband, the wife gets “pulled in” to taking over those ministries
IV. Realize the Need to Cultivate the Marital Relationship
V. Realize the Need to Protect Against Burnout as your wife can become depleted of energy, stamina, focus, and emotions.
VI. Recognize and address your wife’s needs.
Remember, your wife is a “weaker vessel” (1 Pt. 3:7). Her needs must be met or there will be a breakdown.